This article is
an elaboration of my comment to Maureen Dowd’s NYT article, “Sick to Your
Stomach? #MeToo.”
“A
personality disorder can be defined as the global, seamless emotionalized
attitude or belief system that encases and protects a person who failed the
psycho-developmental stages of progressive maturity. This definition would
apply to Narcissistic Personality, Borderline, Antisocial, Schizotypal, Dependent
Personality and the rest. It would probably also apply to most of the senators
who have pre-judged Dr. Christine Blasey Ford and who will doubt her on
Thursday. Their ideas are caused by emotion, and their emotion is the salve on
their failure to be fully grown, mature human beings with normal moral feeling.
That may sound drastic, but I'd bet my next ten years' salary on it.”
Maybe it would
deflate people’s sense of moment and horror to consider that Personality
Disorder may not be the exotic specialty of this “troglodyte” (Ms. Dowd’s term)
president, but could be legion among politicians. Politicians – men and women
who want power to take from the anonymous masses; who are guided by big, cloudy
systems of heterogeneous positions united only by a “Left” or “Right” mood; whose
thinking is not guided and turned by reality but whose reality is pre-established
in their feeling.
Many years ago,
a little innocent in my field, I read with surprise a psychologist’s statement
that “most families are dysfunctional.” These days, most people seem to know
that. I’d like now to propose a possibly unexpected fact – that personality
disorder is pandemic, as terrible as it may seem for a person to grow into a
self-protective universe of developmental arrest and escapist, homeostatic ideas
and emotions.
We see it all
the time, that family and friends, famous and poor, blowhards on bar stools and
highbrows in universities speak their loud wisdom not from their long trials in
the wilderness, not from considering a horizon of possibilities with ignorance
and dispassion, but from templates forged in their childhood and adolescence.
Why do we give credence to these frozen embryos and infants with their adamantine
platforms, conspiracy theories, global prejudices? Why does a single person
accept Tomi Lahren or Steve Bannon or Theodore J. Kaczynski or Donald Trump to
be a considerable human being and not the bent delusion program they are?
How can we
determine who among us is the skewed and out-of-time world of a personality
disorder? (Setting aside whether there is a good purpose in doing so.) Many
times, it is obvious. Someone we hear broadcasts his belief, his certainty, day
in and day out, that seems intangible and oddly scented. This is because it is
not an idea so much as it is his need. It cannot be tested. Bannon’s belief in “saecula”
and “a cataclysmic event that destroys the old order and brings in a new one in
a trial of fire.”* A Narcissist’s certainty of his unique specialness and perfection.
A televangelist whose voice is rabid and whose doctrine is booming; while a parishioner’s,
in a different church, are not. Often, though, it is not visible or audible.
Some writers believe that President Obama is a Narcissist, though canny enough to
hide it, to appear genuinely good and empathic. Trump, stupider and impulsive, can
only pull himself an inch away from stating “I am perfect!”, though “Nobody
knows the system better than me, which is why I alone can fix it”** lurched
very close to godliness.
Maybe the best
approach is to look inside. Do you feel, in a perversely honest moment, there
is something about your belief, your certain conviction, that disembodies you,
sets you apart from the world? Do you need
the belief, the felt rightness of it, or are you grounded in reality without it? A scientist creates a theory, accepts it and values
it. Possibly his theory holds for ten or twenty years, but then is disproven by
other experimenters. He accepts that, and moves on. He is jazzed by the
universe. He still exists whether he is right or wrong.
See if you
still exist without your idea.
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* https://www.businessinsider.com/book-steve-bannon-is-obsessed-with-the-fourth-turning-2017-2.
** Transcript: https://www.politico.com/story/2016/07/full-transcript-donald-trump-nomination-acceptance-speech-at-rnc-225974.
** Transcript: https://www.politico.com/story/2016/07/full-transcript-donald-trump-nomination-acceptance-speech-at-rnc-225974.
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Comments are welcome, but I'd suggest you first read "Feeling-centered therapy" and "Ocean and boat" for a basic introduction to my kind of theory and therapy.