I wonder how many clients say to their therapist – “I don’t know who I am,” or “What if I find out that there’s no real self in there?” One reason I wonder this is my pride – or is it fear? – that the kind of work I do might bring up these questions in people who would otherwise never think of them. Not long ago a highly successful young man got the feeling that he is living on autopilot, with the controls set by unknown forces. More recently a new mother described her sense of being detached from all the “happy” people around her, of being “just there.” From there, we found our way to understandings about the out-of-sync-ness a child may sense when his organic feelings have been submerged. With the passage of time he becomes more distant from his home, his inchoate self. He is more an outcast lost in the present world.
** The title of Viktor E. Frankl's well-known book.