Forty-five years ago when I was sixteen, I read Ayn Rand’s novel Atlas Shrugged. While Ms. Rand doubtless qualified as a Narcissistic personality of the most Olympian stature, and her non-benevolent view of humanity has been condemned to hell by many, being a member of her “cult of individualists” back then probably saved my life. It provided an “inflated balloon” (Masterson) of false ego to substitute for my complete absence of one. And so, I still have a warm feeling for Rand’s philosophically bent heroes.
Though I
haven’t picked up the book since then, during certain moments of therapy the titular
encounter between Hank Rearden and Francisco d’Anconia comes to mind. I may relate the encounter to my client,
after giving a synopsis of the novel’s theme and plot-line. For those of you who don’t know the story,
Rand conceived, in her narcissistic gaze, a world where “the men of the mind” go
on strike in order to starve a leeching, authoritarian government of its
lifeblood. Not the ordinary workers on
strike, but the entrepreneurs, business owners, creators, geniuses, great
artists. Inspired by the Einsteinian
polymath John Galt, they hide away in a mountain fastness to watch the disintegration
of society, which Rand compellingly portrays to be held up by them – the
righteous providers of life, light and right.
What I want
to convey to my client is not the epic moralistic theme, but the counsel that d’Anconia
gives Rearden, a noble industrialist-inventor who is being taxed, robbed and
regulated to death but continues to struggle on. Rearden has not yet been enlightened to
Galt’s plot, while d’Anconia is Galt’s secret henchman, the grim reaper who
culls not the damned but those worthy of being saved.
Here is the
passage:
“Mr. Rearden,” said Francisco, his voice
solemnly calm, “if you saw Atlas, the giant who holds the world on his
shoulders, if you saw that he stood, blood running down his chest, his knees
buckling, his arms trembling but still trying to hold the world aloft with the
last of his strength, and the greater his effort the heavier the world bore
down on his shoulders – what would you tell him to do?
“I . . . don’t know. What . . . could he do? What would you tell him?
“To shrug.”
There are
times when drama, inspiring drama, seems to me felicitously fitting and likely
moving in a therapy moment. A client may
be talking about her unquestioned obeisance to family expectations; his
multivariate service to a sick aunt – chauffeuring to doctors, medical power of
attorney and negotiator roles, frequent bedside audience – and to his abortive
live-in adult son and his alcoholic depressed wife and his classes of students;
her caretaking of her sister, walking on eggshells around her Borderline
husband, handful of charitable outreaches; her carrying her lame husband, adult
daughter and son-in-law, mothering of her daughter’s children and financial
support of her own indolent son, not to mention planning, buying, cooking and
cleaning and organizing and saying little.
She will be describing – like those entertainers on the 1950s Ed
Sullivan show who spun ten plates on ten sticks – a life of excessive burden and
balancing that, though characterological to her, is enslaving and
draining. And more, she has described
depression and anxiety and a childhood that gave her those legacies: where she
had to “grow up too fast” (an actual impossibility) because there was no parent
to lean on. This is a life of drastic drama, of running and
crisis that has never been named for what it is. Feeling the hidden calamity of it, I reach for
my own drama – Atlas – and present
the disturbing story of a society and government that mooch and crush the producer. Entitled, blind and carnivorous they suck
service from her, until she must do something.
Shrug. Drop the damned thing. Say “no.” Look “no.” Cut the leash which, as Rand said in The Fountainhead, is “only a rope with a
noose at both ends.” Parents, family you
serve are symbionts like you, not independent and strong. They are babies who have grafted you into their
being as their mentally and physically stabilizing force. Cut the noose and both of you will have a
chance to grow.
I am aware
that an encouragement, even a powerfully stated one, may just ruffle the
client’s feathers and not cause her to take flight. But then again, a therapeutic statement such
as this may have uncanny force because it names an unavoidable logic: Pain and
injustice, through one’s history, must be answered by pain and justice. It hurts to be the freed child, because she is still alone.
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Comments are welcome, but I'd suggest you first read "Feeling-centered therapy" and "Ocean and boat" for a basic introduction to my kind of theory and therapy.